They have seemingly great mates who have jobs and call their moms and open doors to restaurants- but haven’t yet popped the question.The relationship is traveling into their third (or sixth) year and nothing is wrong except these girls would like to take the relationship to the next level and their men have yet to agree.I get asked a lot of relationship-themed questions given where I work, and one of them is from women with boyfriends who want to know how long to wait for the ring.

I’m a believer that couples can have independent timetables from those stated above depending on their circumstances, but partners need to have a mutual agreement and understanding about the future timeline of the relationship in order to survive- and that agreement needs to be upheld.

However, if you are asking yourself “when is he going to propose already?! You’ve probably picked up on an inequity in he relationship, and one (or more) of your needs is not being met.

Before bringing up the proposal conversation, ask yourself these four questions: Can you accept your relationship as it is, and remove/ give-up the expectation of marriage?

Many women are interested in getting married simply because it’s validated by society, but that doesn’t mean you have to have a ring in order to be happy and have children.

You are not a used car salesman trying to get rid of shoddy goods.

It might hurt to be alone, but it’s better for you in the long run than being in an unhappy marriage.

You might even be filling your thoughts with anxiety and frustration about the future of your relationship.

The issue of how long to wait for the ring might be a decision point for you.

Are these guys patient or just stringing them along? As it turns out, there isn’t a lot of recent research on the courtship length prior to marriage.

Decades ago the statistics ranged from six to fourteen months.

Most say living together prior to getting engaged has less promising outcomes, but this might not reflect changing cultural acceptance.