I think that God is the source of everything; I think he's the provider, He guides us and leads us, in the same way that he secured the Promised Land for the Jews.

And as important as all of that, see if that person is a person that you would like spending time with if there were no romance at all.

That is the one true measure of a friend, a person with whom you like to spend time, having no regard to how you are spending it. And that, long-term, requires character, and in the deepest of friendships, shared values as well.

They learn about relationships, they learn about different kinds of people, they learn about themselves. You mentioned that people tend to stick to a certain type.

What other common mistakes do people make in their dating lives?

Instead of searching for "the one," Cloud encourages his readers to develop a plan to meet and date as many people as possible.

His advice is rooted in Christianity, but single people of all faiths will find his dating tips useful and inspiring.

“If you do not allow yourself to rush into falling for someone that you have not become friends with first, you will be more sure when you let yourself go to the next step. Only believe your experience of getting to know a person and seeing if you can share at a deep level.

Certainly you might find yourself having all sorts of feelings. See if you find that he or she is a person of the kind of character you would trust as a friend.

People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari--like they're trying to land the trophy. Number one, they're looking for "the one." When they get in that mindset, it keeps them from meeting lots of different people that may have attributes or aspects to their personality and character and spiritual lives that that they need and would love, but never would be open to because of this type they have in their head.

If you talk to most happily married couples and just ask them, "Did you think you would end up with somebody like him or her?

Many times somebody's attraction to a type is pathological.