Telling a Woman She’s Hot, Sexy, or Beautiful Ok Cupid discovered that messages with those words receive responses 25% of the time or less.

That’s because focusing on the physical makes a woman feel you’re not interested in getting to know the real her, explains Spira. “Mention something else you admired about her profile,” suggests Spira.

You want to be clever but not corny, sincere but not overly sensitive.

Males tend to focus on their own interests, whereas women are more conscious of who they're reaching out to—especially when it comes to attractiveness.

Now, we're not saying you shouldn't talk to a knockout; but men tend to send a lot of messages to female users and not get many responses in return, the researchers found.

Reaching Out to Every Woman You want to up your odds and shoot for the stars—or, rather the girl who's out of your league.

But new research from Binghamton University says you're being too self-centered and aggressive.

(Hint: It’s related to groceries.) …why completely de-geeking your profile is the worst mistake you could make.

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