It is rude–to not respond to an inquiry or the fact someone showed interest in you is very selfish and rude.

So, the little pieces they do know end up being much more important than they would be in the context of a deeper relationship. If someone is not replying to you, all you have is a monologue. How about starting a conversation instead of asking them to dance.

The problem is that most people think that monologues ARE conversations. This is an idea that comes from sales and is very simple.

After all, if someone introduced us (out in the real world), the guy would show some semblance of politeness. It isn’t you–it is the other side that doesn’t know how to behave properly.

On occasion, I’ve contacted the guy a second time and expressed my disappointment in their not answering, and usually, when prodded, they do write something. Instead look at it from a positive POV; you found out they lack common courtesy even before you wasted another moment.

So yeah, send one - then delete your sent email and move on; if you aren't expecting response, it'll be a nice surprise when you get one.

And not getting a response is what is going to happen the most."More than 1 contact makes me a stalker? Consider that the women you're talking to know almost nothing about you.

Now because when I sent e-mails they were usually conversation starters with a question, I sent one, then later on maybe a second one, but rarely a third one. I have to say that a lot of second ones did get a response, either saying thanks but no thanks. Now third emails, rarely got a response at all, so I would say two were my workable limit. I didn't realize I could be perceived a stalker because of 2 contacts. When I ask someone to dance and they turn me down, I may ask again later, and those second attempts have led to some of my best friendships. If you frame the question in a way that can procure a "No" more than likely you will get a no.

I don't think I'm pressuring and really have never felt obsessed(? Also, I may read my mail, but forget to respond, usually because I don't check every day, or if I 'm traveling, I may not get internet access for a week or more. So if you say, "Let's go dancing." My automatic response is "Who the fvck you think you are that I am going to go dancing with you?

The idea is to keep her talking about what she likes.

My comment was directed to the 'it's the same as real life' comment.

When emailing, I usually don't bring up anything about dancing.