There are plenty of kind, generous, affectionate, patient Black men in America. Dating an African-American man doesn't mean you have to lower your standards and be someone you're not. Accept That The Love Of Your Life May Not Be Black This is for all the hardcore lovers of Black culture, who have a pure adoration for Black men's strength and beauty.

I personally have a number of Black male family members and friends who have never been to jail, have college degrees, and are good fathers.

Because of this knowledge (and my general affinity for being a tolerant and realistic human being), I believe Black men deserve the utmost respect in relationships, just like anyone else.

Meet for the first time in a populated, public location – never in a private or remote location. Inform a friend or family member of your plans and when and where you're going.

If you own a mobile phone, make sure you have it with you . Do not do anything that would impair your judgment and cause you to make a decision you could regret. Just in case things don't work out, you need to be in control of your own ride – even if you take a taxi.

Have something to say that's not on a script he's expecting.

Wait For The If you're determined to date Black men, make sure you're keeping a good reign on your own self-esteem, boundaries, and standards.Our smart-profiling service is based on two main factors: an in-depth personality test and your search criteria.The personality test gives us an overview of who you are and what’s important to you – for example religion, lifestyle, habits and location.Going to the club to check hot Black guys out like they are in a meat market is just as degrading as men objectifying women.Black men are not just super-sexy, they are human beings and deserve of you, not just your sexual side. You don't have to come on strong to get to know a man. It is wise to learn about the history and the current social and racial climate of America before you haul off and say something super-offensive to a Black man in conversation.As an African-American woman, I sympathize greatly with the plight of Black men in America.