Are you establishing healthy boundaries about what you will or won’t accept in an intimate partner, or are you just being picky?

How do you know when your standards are coming from a place of self-respect, as opposed to a place of self-deception? If your friends and family tell you you’re too picky, you’ve been chronically single for years, or you’ve been in unfulfilling intimate relationships for a number of years and you can’t seem to settle on one person, then this article is for you.

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One reason to cling to high standards is that we aren’t proud of our own life, so we want to self-sabotage by keeping people distanced from us.

To counteract this, build a happy single life first.

The missing trait need not be a deal breaker if reframed.

Do you actually need someone who is taller than you, or do you just like the end result of feeling protected?

Could it be possible that you’re hiding behind your standards to keep yourself out of relationships?

I mean, if no one can ever meet your standards then you’ll never have to fall in love and risk being hurt.

Spend time with inspiring people that energize you.

Make friends who are more encouraging than they are hard on you.

These women got the axe because they didn’t meet the impossible standards of these neurotic characters.

In the real world, it’s problematic when you’ve set your standards so high that no one can actually meet them.

As a result, you’re always unhappy with whoever you’re going out with, since he or she keeps disappointing you in at least some aspect of your idealistic expectations.