” again, suggesting that women should steer clear of handsome alpha types who are quite likely to ultimately let them down. If the conventional wisdom is for women to avoid relationships with them, is it in their (the alpha guys) best interest to skip the so-called American dream, avoid marriage and children and just bounce from one short-term relationship to another?

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After all, having character involves tradeoffs, and alpha males most certainly don’t want limits put on their freedoms.

So, to bring this back to you, Sara, my thoughts on alpha males is that while they may remain the most attractive candidates out there, as a rule, they tend to be bad long-term relationship bets. They may try to spend money on you but it doesn’t compensate for their lack of attention, affection and understanding. But you hold on because he’s such an intoxicating catch.

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Hi Evan, This is a curiosity more than a dating advice question.

” (This is one of those aphorisms.) I told her that my career was not just a job, but kind of a calling. She told me that, as a career man, since my job would come first, I could get married and be perfectly content, but I’d always be longing for more. Allen’s contention, essentially, was that if you’re an alpha male, your natural tendency is to put your needs first, to conquer, to dominate, to spread your seed, and to hope to not break too many hearts along the way. And in this regard, I realized, I’m not a pure alpha male.

She finally concluded that, based on my profile, I would probably cheat on my wife a few times. It’s more important to me to be a good husband and father than it is to pursue my selfish interests at all costs.

I was just plain happy – in a healthy, fun, nurturing, supportive relationship that had no obvious flaws apart from what was buzzing through my head: “I don’t have the FEELING I think I should have!

” Pat asked me: “Are you a career man or a man with a career?

I didn’t have that obsessive, breathless, “I must have you” sentiment.