It’s similar to when you interview for a job where you feel like your resume is a perfect fit for the company, yet you don’t get the job.

Perhaps the interview didn’t go as well as you thought, because the employer isn’t just looking for the best candidate — they’re looking for the person who will be the best fit for the team at the company.

Therapists aren’t always self-aware enough to acknowledge that sometimes they may see a client who isn’t the best fit for them (and bad therapists will never acknowledge such a thing).

It is a professional relationship that often has a strong emotional component.

This emotional component can lead to a therapist acting in inappropriate ways that are both unethical and inappropriate.6.

Especially if they expect to end the session on-time (since their next appointment is also waiting). Sure, they may be running late one week here or there, but you shouldn’t be penalized for their scheduling snafus. Therapists should stop talking to people about the 50 minute hour.

Professionals expect this from one another, and so clients should expect it from their therapist. No other profession pads its time in this way to explain the other 10 minutes is devoted to “paperwork” for the patient.5.

Any situation that suggests primarily a social component — that is, the therapist just wants to see you and talk to you (or engage in some sort of liaison) — is .

Professional therapists do not meet their clients for coffee or a drink after work, because therapists aren’t your friends.If that’s the agreement between you and the therapist at the start of therapy, that should be something you hold them to as therapy progresses.If you notice your therapist is showing up later and later for each appointment (first 2 minutes late, then 5 minutes late, then 7 minutes late), that’s a clear nonverbal message.As long as they use those notes to remember who you are and what you’re there for the following week.2. Couple’s therapists are trained to do to counseling with two people at the same time.Usually it’s to work on communication skills — helping each person learn to really listen and hear what their partner is saying, as well as to open up and share one’s own feelings and thoughts in a non-judgmental environment.As I noted two years ago, clock watching is not only an annoying habit, it’s a sign of a therapist who is more interested in how much they have to go with you than what you’re saying.