If you can handle this dynamic where he's in control of the speed of the relationship and you want to further pursue a connection, it's best you stop yourself every time you want to shorten the gap between you both.So, no calling him, touching him to force a connection, seducing him with sexy texts and photos, inviting him to concerts of his favorite band, and so on. You must remain patient and wait for him to call, invite you somewhere, touch you, or ask you questions about yourself.It seems to me that our Christian society can get so fixated on the “physical” aspects of intimacy, that we neglect the emotional and spiritual components that can be just as binding and just as devastating in the end.

No blaming, no silent treatment, no screaming, no foot-stomping, and no pouting.

If he doesn't want to hear your feelings or doesn't care about your feelings (out of a sense of rejection or simply out of selfish indifference), you have to still remain firm in not rewarding him for bad behavior.

Don’t get me wrong, as a professional counselor and as a woman who has gone through the world of dating, I think the question of physical boundaries is really important and requires some serious thought and consideration.

It’s important to put mental time and energy in questions like this and to set your limits within a dating relationship- which is why I’ve devoted an entire chapter to it in the most important thing?

My other dog is a sweet-hearted Chihuahua mix who's very polite and doesn't know a stranger.

Little Pumpkin warmed up right away to my Chihuahua mix but not to my Jack Russell mix. Because my Chihuahua mix invited Pumpkin to come closer, as opposed to my Jack Russell mix who constantly tried to bruise his way into her space.This will show him that you aren't a pushover, and will make him see that loving you requires accountability and structure.Accountability and structure will actually make an emotionally unavailable man feel more trusting of you and safer to come closer. I’m sure it’s no surprise to hear that I get asked this question all the time from well-meaning young adults, looking to set up some boundaries in their relationships.But why is it that when we answer this question, we tend to fixate on the physical?It's wearing on your soul and it can end up hurting you a lot.