I know this guy that actually married a girl with the herps.

But, now that I have this virus, and I am fully aware of the impact it has had on my body (I've had painful symptoms non-stop for months!

), my question is, how can I possibly put anyone that I love and care about in this position?

He is someone I've always felt loved me enough to protect me and keep me safe. The thing I am struggling so deeply with is that I want to have a partner, a totally exclusive partner, not someone who is married and "allowed" to be with another woman.

It has never been my desire to be in a relationship like this.

Mary, I feel confident that once you get your symptoms under control you will be able to release the trauma of this painful time in your life.

This will then allow you to see herpes for what it really is: an unfortunate occurrence that can be mildly inconvenient at times.

It can be spread from one partner to another even when there are NO noticeable symptoms on the part of either partner.

Since many people engage in oral sex without the use of condoms or dental dams, getting genital herpes from oral sex is increasingly common.

The Gremlin, as fellow dating coach Marni Battista likes to call it, is that mean, judgmental, condemning voice inside your head.