Last night John called me and told me that he wants to see me because he misses me, I can't keep doing this I must choose but I don't know who to choose! I want to talk about multiplicity in your dating life. They think someone who dates several people at once must be a cheater, a commitment-phobe or at a minimum, a liar.Sometimes, what we think we want (or don't want) may not be so easily determined in one date.

I know that it's not right to date two men at the same time, and if my man dated two women I won't like it, However, I kind of like both of them so much and don't want to give them up.

The first one (Scott) is so sweet, nice, handsome and generous.

Some of them will "drop off" naturally as one or both of you realize you are not a good match.

You don't have to tell the people you date how many people you're dating. One reason a lot of women shy away from dating multiple people is because they feel awkward about what to say if one of the people they're seeing asks them about it.

Here are five great reasons to date multiple people -- at once: 1. So many people date "comfortably"; they keep seeing people who are nice, but they never date anyone who really excites them.

They go out with whoever happens to cross their path and then don't look any further.That's something you need to figure out on your own. I know that it's not right to date two men at the same time, and if my man dated two women I won't like it, However, I kind of like both of them so much and don't want to give them up.One thing to keep in mind - don't pick a guy just because of his good looks... The first one (Scott) is so sweet, nice, handsome and generous.Part of working on your inside is going out and meeting lots of people.Giving different types of people a chance on dates will help you to define who you really are and what you really want from a partner. Get rid of your dating "musts." A lot of women have a mental list of "musts" for the men and women they want to meet and date.It's all about understanding the law of attraction. Until you go out and work on your inside, there's no way you're going to attract the person you want.