While this theory isn’t written in stone, it can be argued that men in relationships usually give in to temptation involving the opposite sex more than women.

So if a man is attractive, both physically and financially, his pickins’ with the ladies will likely be more plentiful than the man who isn’t.

Again, this theory isn’t confirmed, but it sure makes a heck of a point.

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We’ve all witnessed it before, a beautiful woman in a relationship with, let’s just say, a less than attractive man.

Of course it’s not all about looks, and shouldn’t be, but still some of us can’t help but wonder…what is she REALLY doing with him?

I’m not a psychologist who has been trained to delve into your past; my specialty is helping women in the present model confident behavior to elicit better results in the future.

Your issue, in this instance, isn’t lack of confidence; it’s something that runs much deeper, something you only hinted at when you say that your family “messed you up.” Without knowing you, I have to concur.

Let’s just say that this wasn’t one of my success stories.

And this is where we bump up against one of my limitations of a coach.

If having a physically attractive man is high on the list, maybe you can’t get past the looks; but if you can there may be a fulfilling relationship in store with a man who genuinely appreciates you.

Mesdames, will you date a man that you don’t consider attractive but who treats you almost better than you treat yourself?

However, I’m also aware having been through a lot of therapy after numerous and significant mental health difficulties (eating disorders etc.) that I tend to date cold or unavailable men and then not ask for more and maintain that emotional distance – essentially, I seem to have been in a habit of avoiding intimacy by going out with people I don’t find attractive, or more often than I’d like to admit, men who I know are gay before I even ask them out…otherwise they’re narcissistic or give mixed messages, or aren’t close in some way etc.

Knowing that I have that pattern, I made a promise to myself to pick up on coldness whenever I find someone attractive and to walk away.

I find the vast, vast, vast majority of men unattractive.